Defeating The Affair Survival Saboteur

I'm talking about an affair rival that's strong invisible and constantly on your case. One that never stops trying to destroy your best efforts to survive the affair.

That enemy - is YOU! Or more accurately the enemy inside. That element of you that attempts to place a positive spin on your negative reality.

It's logical to assume that your "positive subconscious" is on your side in this affair survival battle. When the truth of the matter is it's an enemy that weakens and cripples those exact same efforts. Suggesting that your spouse's affair was just a one-time thing. That the infidelity could never happen again. Strenghtening your thought that getting back to "the way things were" before the adultery would solve everything.Ignoring the fact that it was the nature of your relationship then that eventually culminated in the affair. Take off the rose colored glasses. This trail is a dead end.

The big question now is the readily apparent one. How do you battle yourself? How do you hope to overcome the everpresent destructive power of the "positive sub-concious? What weapons have you got to assure victory in this war?

Awareness is your "big cannon." Your best start on the road to weakening and finally getting completly rid of your "interior enemy" starts with you being aware of it's existence.

Your following step in "taking out" your saboteur is to "take care of business." Concentrate totally with mind and body. Focus on a task as mundane as grocery shopping. Look in the cupboard. Think about what you need. Make a list. As you follow this technique you'll find you won't be thinking about the past or the future; You'll be exactly where you need to be. In the present

While you continue to advance your campaign to dismantle the "positive sub-concious",at the same time you must also rebuild yourself. You've been shattered. Knocked out. Emotionally run over.You've had to deal with more than you ever could have imagined. You're clearly not as powerful as you need to be. That {strength,|power your "inner force" must be recharged if you are to be successful in surviving your affair.

You need to accept and understand that it's essential to lose your self-doubt and self-recrimination. They are microbes that will feed your current sickness. You need to work on eliminating them to regain your self-respect. The reason for that is that your victory in the affair survival war, depends on re-establishing your regard for, and belief in yourself.

Obviously, living with the knowledge that someone you loved and trusted could be intimate with someone else is a tremendous blow to your self-esteem. - Recovering the authentic positive aspects of you won't be a walk in the park. More like a bed of thorns.

But if you don't take that thorny walk, if you don't realize how important it is to work through those negative emotions and the recurring negative affair images, you'll never walk victoriously into the sunshine of the "real" you.



The author is someone who's survived a devastating affair who advises all those trying to get through to to profit from from this free resource.