The Hidden Enemy of Affair Survival

I'm talking about an affair rival that's powerful, invisible and constantly on attack. One that never stops trying to undermine your best efforts to survive the affair.

That opposing force - is YOU! Or more accurately the enemy inside. That element of you that wants to place a positive spin on your negative reality.

You may think that your "positive sub-conciousness" is an ally, helping you to advance in your struggle. When the truth of the matter is it's an enemy that hinders and hurts those exact same efforts. Suggesting that your significant other's infidelity was just a one-time thing. That the fling could never happen again. Strenghtening your thought that getting back to "the way things were" before the fling would solve everything.Not taking into account the reality that it was the condition of your relationship then that finally culminated in the affair. Take off the rose colored glasses. This road is a dead end.

The most important question now is the logical one. How do you battle yourself? How can you do battle with the constant destructive power of the "positive sub-concious? What weapons have you got to win this war?

Awareness is your "big cannon." Your best start on the road to weakening and finally getting completly rid of your "interior enemy" starts with you being aware of it's existence.

Your next step in "taking out" your enemy is to "take care of business." Concentrate intently with mind and body. Concentrate on what you need as boring as grocery shopping. Look in the cupboard. Think about what you need. Make a list. In other words, place yourself squarely in the present. Giving no attention to either the past or the future.

While you continue to advance your campaign to dismantle the "positive sub-concious",at the same time you must also rebuild yourself. You've been shattered. Knocked out. Emotionally run over.You've had to deal with more than you ever could have imagined. You're naturally not as powerful as you need to be. That {strength,|power your "inner force" must be regained if you truly want to win this war and survive your affair.

You need to accept and understand that it's essential to lose your self-doubt and self-recrimination. They are viruses that will feed your present sickness. You need to work on eliminating them to regain your self-respect. For it is your "self-love", your regard for and belief in yourself that is crucial to your

Obviously, living with the knowledge that someone you loved and trusted could be intimate with someone else is a tremendous blow to your self-esteem. - ringing back the real positive attributes of you won't be a bed of roses. More like a bed of thorns.

But if you don't take that midnight graveyard walk, if you don't realize how important it is to get rid of those negative emotions and the haunting affair images, you'll never walk victoriously into the sunshine of the "real" you.



The author is the survivor of a painful affair who urges all those working their way through to take advantage of from this free resource.